Comments on: does anybody understand fathers rights in family law?

By: laughter_every_day

laughter_every_day — Fri, 04 Sep 2009 02:27:14 +0000

You seem to be asking how to find someone who doesn’t wish to be found. If you lack the ability to do it yourself, you hire someone who has the necessary skills. You could hire a private investigator yourself but you are going to need a lawyer eventually so you might as well hire the lawyer and have the lawyer hire the investigator.

The notion of suing for damages for her not letting you see the child is going nowhere because she has no obligation to do anything until a court determines that you are indeed the father. If the court determines that you are the father you can indeed try for custody or visitation.

By: Miss G

Miss G — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 12:50:00 +0000

Get a lawyer, and see if they can do a skip trace on her.

Then the lawyer will file a motion for joint custody, and she will be notified.

You will probably have to establish paternity, also.

Good for you, for wanting to be a part of your child’s life. =)

PS- Plenty of dads have full custody these days. Get a good lawyer to show that the lack of time and bonding has created damages to both you and your child. Don’t badmouth the mother, in any event- she may not have known you were the father, even, believe it or not. She may not be doing this to intentionally keep you out of the picture.
You can also still voluntarily sign the birth certificate, I think, but you should as an attorney these things before you go there.. and establish paternity, just in case. =)

By: Jack

Jack — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 04:04:00 +0000

Get an attorney. Local law determines your rights. These rights vary by state.

Sadly, in some cases, fathers don’t have rights. You snooze, you loose. You need to talk with a lawyer. You can get yourself into trouble doing things wrong or out of order. Misunderstandings can have effects which last a life-time.