Help with sister-in-law, family issues?
goldylocks11 asked:
Should I visit my sister-in-law and her new baby? Here is a little info: My sister-in-law is my husbands blood sister, she is 31. She is spoiled and gets too much attention from my husbands mom and dad, it has been this way since they were little. She got pregnant on PURPOSE after another niece of mine in the family was about to give birth to her new little one (she felt that the family would give my niece attention and not her). Anyways, I always sort of felt bad that my husband didn’t get the love and attention from his parents that he should have when he was little. So, my sister-in-law just had her baby, my question is, Should I go visit her and the baby? I don’t really like her, but I’m just confused, and don’t know what to do. Thanks to all that respond.
She got pregnant on purpose, and the reason we know is because the father of the baby (her husband) told the family.
Most of my husbands side of the family does not like her
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Should I visit my sister-in-law and her new baby? Here is a little info: My sister-in-law is my husbands blood sister, she is 31. She is spoiled and gets too much attention from my husbands mom and dad, it has been this way since they were little. She got pregnant on PURPOSE after another niece of mine in the family was about to give birth to her new little one (she felt that the family would give my niece attention and not her). Anyways, I always sort of felt bad that my husband didn’t get the love and attention from his parents that he should have when he was little. So, my sister-in-law just had her baby, my question is, Should I go visit her and the baby? I don’t really like her, but I’m just confused, and don’t know what to do. Thanks to all that respond.
She got pregnant on purpose, and the reason we know is because the father of the baby (her husband) told the family.
Most of my husbands side of the family does not like her
March 29th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
I would , it is not the babys fault.
April 1st, 2009 at 5:04 pm
Most people get pregnant on purpose, whether they admit it or not..
I think you are putting a more ‘evil touch’ on this than is warranted. Be happy for your niece and her new baby. Be happy for the sis in law. Be happy you aren’t the one who has to do those 2 am feedings!
Since you obviously don’t like the SIL, I would make the customary visit and gift and then let it go. You don’t have to go all goofy over the kid. You don’t have to shower the baby with gifts. But it would look odd to not visit at all.
It’s okay to not like her, but you need to at least keep peace in the family and do what is considered the normal contact.
April 3rd, 2009 at 7:12 pm
definitly, i dont get along with my boyfirneds sisters too well but we always go visit his nephews and pick them up for the day. I love them to death!
April 6th, 2009 at 8:48 am
Does your husband see all the so-called things your sister in law is doing?
If he does, let him deal with it and if not, let it go.
If you dont go and see her and the baby, YOU are going to be the hot topic of the family -
April 7th, 2009 at 12:12 pm
dont be to hard in yourself better to send her a card if you dont like her i bet you will just feel uncomfortable when you get there or if you can pretend you like her go on……the baby won’t mind either…
April 8th, 2009 at 2:51 am
you are being redicuous - you have no proof she got pregnant just because someone else in the family did - good grief, why are you creating more drama, or stirring the pot, when they are your in-laws? why fall into the gossip and bs?
Newsflash - your husband wasn’t not given love and attention - what he got was different love and attention because he is a totally different person than his sister - his needs were different than her’s were. All you are doing is enabling a pity party.
Yes you go see the baby - because the baby is an innocent vitim in all of this - and maybe, just maybe - the child will give you reason to put aside your assumptions and gossip and be a decent aunt.
April 9th, 2009 at 1:47 pm
Well the spoiled brat has a real eye opener ahead!!!!Having a child on purpose hmmmm. Anyway aside from her, the new baby deserves your attention. Just go over meet the baby, take pics and be on your way, not drawn out, and leave the focus completely on the baby. Selfish people really get me!!!!
April 10th, 2009 at 8:58 pm
Don’t listen to the people on here that are making you out to be the bad person. I have a sister in law that can be the same way sometimes. As a matter of fact her parents bought her a car a few years and what did they buy for my husband? Nothing. Also, they criticized us for buying a car a couple years ago. They said it was a bad financial decision when in fact it was a good one because we had a car and a truck and the car broke down and the truck was resulting in paying too much gas money so the new car was kind of a necessity. We use the car for most trips and commutes and we save the truck for trips to the hardware or up north where there is a lot of snow. But, anyhow, his parents have always given her more than him. Part of it could be because she is trying to make it on her own. I don’t know but as a result of it she can really be a spoiled brat sometimes. Like, they have family members spread out around the state and she has to ride with us and if we decide that we just feel like taking a trip as just the 2 of us, if she finds out she makes us look bad to the family for not taking her. Of course we are past the point of caring because we know our rights and the family knows better too. So, I hear you. But, you should go just because it is the right thing to do. Also, you don’t want to become the talk of the family for not going. By going it also shows a form of respect to your husband and his family.
April 13th, 2009 at 1:25 pm
Sure go see your new niece or nephew. You don’t have to for the sister-in-law, but the baby isn’t to blame. Babys are such a blessing. As for your husband. You spoil him and let him know daily what a blessing he is to you. It’s to bad your in-laws missed out.
April 15th, 2009 at 8:30 pm
First of all, your husband is an adult now, and needs to get over his child hood lack of attention issues.
Second of all you may not like her, but she still is family and you need to be coordial. Visit her and her new baby. Do what is expected of you, because if you don’t visit them, she may pout because of it and draw more attention to herself like usual. Be a good example, and try to stay positive. Make it a short, but sweet visit. Than you will be able to move past this. Good luck!