Comments on: How do you tell your Family-in-laws that they smokes to much and you don’t want your newborn in her house?

By: Juliet can sit up!

Juliet can sit up! — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:02:31 +0000

My grandmother is a very heavy smoker, and I hate going over there. It reeks and we always smell after we leave. I told her that if she wanted to see my baby, she was going to have to air out the house, and only smoke in her bedroom a day in advance. While we are there, she smokes in her room, washes her hands and changes her shirt after, and when we get home, we take a bath immediately. If they won’t do this for you, have them come to your house, without their cigarettes, or they won’t be seeing your child. Simple as that. Juliet can sit up!

By: JS

JS — Sat, 02 Jan 2010 09:11:15 +0000

Tell them that second hand smoke can lead to infections (such as ear) and respiratory problems. If they can’t respect your wishes to keep your baby healthy, then they have a problem and are not worth being in the baby’s life! I know that’s hard because they are your in-laws, but stand your ground for your baby! JS

By: Rhia B

Rhia B — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 21:47:14 +0000

The only way to get your point across is to say it bluntly. My husbands family told the grandparents they wouldn’t be able to see they’re grandchildren unless they stopped smoking. And they did. If you don’t mind that they still smoke, just make it very clear they aren’t allowed to smoke in you or your childrens presence. Rhia B

By: Doodlestuff

Doodlestuff — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 20:34:41 +0000

Just tell them that no smoking goes on at your house (even outside) and if they want to see the baby, they will have to come over because their home reeks of smoke. You understand that they don’t consider smoking to be a health issue, but you do not share their opinion. If they can’t respect your wishes, they won’t see the kid. Doodlestuff

By: jlb

jlb — Sat, 26 Dec 2009 01:29:24 +0000

Wow. Those poor babies! Just don’t take your baby over there. If the in laws question you, you or your husband (preferably your husband) should be straight with them and say you don’t want your child exposed to 2nd hand smoke. End of story. Also, be sure that if they come visit you they smoke outside. jlb

By: Carrie L

Carrie L — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 04:09:23 +0000

Tell them your doctor said you can’t be around smoke. If they have to smoke invite them over to your house instead which is smoke free. When the baby is born, tell them the pediatrician said your child can’t be around smoke. If you ask your pediatrician, that’s exactly what he’ll say. Carrie L