Is there anything wrong with the Afghan family law?
Dr Law asked:
I dont see anything wrong with it - a woman ought not to deprive her spouse and vice versa- a constant use of the ” headache excuse” perhaps may have warranted the government to enact the “sleep with your husband every foourth night”
True patriot : If it works for them , who are you to critisize?
This entry was posted
on Thursday, April 9th, 2009 at 12:00 am and is filed under Law & Ethics.
You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed.
You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.
I dont see anything wrong with it - a woman ought not to deprive her spouse and vice versa- a constant use of the ” headache excuse” perhaps may have warranted the government to enact the “sleep with your husband every foourth night”
True patriot : If it works for them , who are you to critisize?
April 10th, 2009 at 4:13 am
I don’t live there, and it has nothing to do with me. I believe in self-determination for every nation.
April 10th, 2009 at 9:09 pm
I would say the fact that rape in marriage is currently legal is wrong.
Although apparently the Afghan Pm is going to review this after pressure from the West.
April 11th, 2009 at 9:18 am
If you want to follow Afghan family law then go and live in Afghanistan.
Let’s not forget that the same law legalises rape, forbids a wife from making a doctor’s appointment, working or getting education without the consent of her husband. She also may not leave the house without his permission.
These rules are an insult to the concept of Law within our terms of reference, and more belong in the Middle Ages than in our civilized world.
Edit: You’d have to ask Afghan women if it works for them. Like I said, if you want to live that way, live it in Afghanistan, but don’t bring it over to Britain and expect us to put up with it.
April 14th, 2009 at 1:29 pm
We westerners judge everything by our perception of what is right and wrong, what ethical standards we live by and then proceed to shove this down other peoples throats. Having said that, there are certain ethical and moral standards that are higher than what we deem as necessary. I have had Afghan relatives by my daughters marriage into the culture. While there are many, many beautiful things and people, it is a secretive, sneaky and deceitful culture. While denying drinking, smoking, and adultery it is common practice for the men to do these things and pretend it doesn’t happen. Lying is prevalent in the culture and face-saving paramount in the family. Everyone knows what is going on but will turn a blind eye to it for the sake of face. Women, while freer in this country are still looked upon as property and the marriage contract is about money. The underlying old way of life is still evident, though many Afghans are trying to break out.
I find this law you describe distasteful and brutal. While I try and honor and respect other cultures and their belief systems, there are certain things that are just not right. Is intervention necessary? No, but the court of public opinion will bring pressure. And then there is the question of acceptance by the woman. Maybe she is agreeable to this and we need to butt out. I could imagine the brouhaha it would cause if Muslims started criticizing Christians more blatantly . We seem however to think we hold the high moral ground.
April 16th, 2009 at 6:56 pm
IT SHOULD BE SLEEP WITH YOUR HUBBY EVERY 4TH YEAR!