My brother in law is very religious and graduated college last year. He mailed out letters to family and ?
EvelynR asked:
So my husband and I donated as a graduation gift and to help out. Now, he is a year out of college and we just got another letter asking donations for another sponsored trip. I think it’s an amazing thing in what he is doing but do you think a second letter/donation is a bit much two years in a row…
He has a job with the army right now and gets out two months before the trip!
This is his second mission trip…
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So my husband and I donated as a graduation gift and to help out. Now, he is a year out of college and we just got another letter asking donations for another sponsored trip. I think it’s an amazing thing in what he is doing but do you think a second letter/donation is a bit much two years in a row…
He has a job with the army right now and gets out two months before the trip!
This is his second mission trip…
October 29th, 2009 at 1:05 am
I don’t believe in anything. For all I know, you’re lying. Jigsaw
October 31st, 2009 at 4:57 am
and? phlegm
October 31st, 2009 at 8:36 am
What sponsored trip in the Army (Flags going up)? Light and Truth
November 3rd, 2009 at 8:25 am
You shouldn’t feel pressured to give. If you don’t want to give to him, don’t - it’s that simple
Morganie4
November 3rd, 2009 at 3:11 pm
I told you religious people ask for money a lot! Dr Jazz
November 4th, 2009 at 10:21 am
How old is he now? 23? Maybe 24? And he’s still sending you letters begging for money so he can go on his god-walk?
I wouldn’t - tell him to work for it like everyone else. He’s an adult now, time to act like one. Cassie T
November 6th, 2009 at 3:08 pm
Hey, I’m taking a little trip, and I’d like some sponsors too.
All donations would be very, very much appreciated. Johnny91
November 8th, 2009 at 3:21 am
What is the trip for? If you agree with what he’s doing on the trip (i.e. service to some group of people?) then that’s your deciding factor. If he’s just looking for a vacation, I’d say it’s time he self-sponsored!
God bless you. Winters
November 8th, 2009 at 10:42 pm
Your question isn’t really clear, what kind of trip is this? Mission trip?
I think that if you cannot or don’t want to donate, don’t. Really it is up to you. Every year I raise funds for charity, if that was what he is doing would you feel differently because he isn’t going on a trip…or would you equate it to the same thing. When people raise funds for mission trips or charities they are usually trying hard to fulfill something inside that says they are helping out others. Sounds like that is all he wants to do (assuming that this is a mission trip). A UU Pagan
November 11th, 2009 at 2:51 am
tell him to go and fuck himself, he is taking advantage of your good nature like all religious cults cut him out of your life, plant drugs on him or plant something incriminating on him to make your sister brake up with him hope this helps! witness evil
November 11th, 2009 at 4:25 pm
Don’t feel pressured into sending money. If his only communication in the last two years has been letters asking for money, I would not feel guilty about not sending money. It isn’t your job to fund his life. science chick
November 13th, 2009 at 1:09 am
He seems to think that his family and friends should finance his life. Is a second donation a bit much? I think the FIRST donation was a bit much. Graduation presents usually come from parents if anyone. Usually people don’t go around hitting up their friends and relatives to pay for their hobbies. If everyone keeps going along with this, he’s going to keep mooching off the family for the rest of his life. Why shouldn’t he when it works so well? choko_canyon
November 16th, 2009 at 10:47 am
If you give money once, they are going to think you’ll be happy to give again…if you don’t want to donate, simply tell him no and offer no explanations…he won’t ask for any unless he’s strapped for cash for some other reason… Ideas, Not Beliefs
November 19th, 2009 at 7:02 am
It is a little odd, but you should do what you feel. In the current economy, you have plenty of excuse not to contribute to his fundraiser. The commencement ride is over. skepsis
November 20th, 2009 at 1:18 am
Tell him to become a Jehovahs wittness instead , each congregation works locally so he doesnt have to take expensive trips
And how is it that he is a christian and works for the army? What would jesus think of that little factoid? Mara
November 22nd, 2009 at 1:56 pm
It is not uncommon to ask for sponsors to offset the cost of these trips.
Those who feel moved to sponsor such things have the opportunity to with these letters. Those who do not feel moved to sponsor are not required to.
You stated he was very religious. If you do not feel comfortable donating money, then mail him a letter of support containing prayers.
A friend of mine gets quite a few letters like this. He mails them a journal so they may write of their journeys. He encourages his religious friends to write in their journals. Just a thought… jcmazza101
November 23rd, 2009 at 6:12 am
asking doesn’t mean give Mean Carleen
November 24th, 2009 at 8:38 am
Something is wrong with this picture. A stranger sending a letter I can understand. But a brother in law? Come on! He can’t get on the phone or face you when he wants to bum money.
It sounds like he has some guilt about the question to begin with. The first thing I would wonder is how he is really using the money and how necessary this trip is. Mandy B
November 24th, 2009 at 8:31 pm
I think that if he going on some type of mission trip, that it should be paid for either by his church, or by himself. It is not your responsibility.
You could donate something if you’d like, but you shouldn’t feel obligated. rebecca_n_austin
November 25th, 2009 at 1:56 pm
I think he is emotionally extorting his family and friends. June smiles
November 26th, 2009 at 11:04 pm
Yes I think it is too much. Everything that has to do with being religious cost to much. Does every catholic church really need $200,000.00 worth of stained glass?
Just because he is religious does not give him the right to always ask for money and its the same thing as the lazy cousin that doesn’t have a job and lives with his parents.
If he is going to do ask for money every year, tell him to setup a bank account that accepts anonymous donations. It is embarrassing to those being asked for money when being asked send a check to that person. basspro12v