My wife refuses to attend family events with me because she hates my sister and brother-in-law?
Posted January 14th, 2009 by admin 18 Comments »
R S asked:
I’ve been married for 10 years. 8 years ago my sister and brother-in-law visited our house and made comments that were obnoxious, such as “Why did you want to move to this town”, “Wow, your lawn is so big you could put a boat back here.” Ever since, my wife has refused to see my sister+ brother-in-law. I told my sister she can be obnoxious at times, and my sister hasn’t made a big effort to repair the damage. And my wife has made zero effort to let it go and move on. She has some avoidant personality traits, and is completely estranged from her sister and parents because she doesn’t like the way they have treated her. My wife completely avoids contact with anyone she does not like. She won’t drive through the town where my sister or her family live, for fear of running into them. Now my parents are having a big 50th wedding anniversary party, and my wife refuses to go since my sister+brother-in-law will be there. How do I encourage my wife to be strong and attend this event?
I’ve been married for 10 years. 8 years ago my sister and brother-in-law visited our house and made comments that were obnoxious, such as “Why did you want to move to this town”, “Wow, your lawn is so big you could put a boat back here.” Ever since, my wife has refused to see my sister+ brother-in-law. I told my sister she can be obnoxious at times, and my sister hasn’t made a big effort to repair the damage. And my wife has made zero effort to let it go and move on. She has some avoidant personality traits, and is completely estranged from her sister and parents because she doesn’t like the way they have treated her. My wife completely avoids contact with anyone she does not like. She won’t drive through the town where my sister or her family live, for fear of running into them. Now my parents are having a big 50th wedding anniversary party, and my wife refuses to go since my sister+brother-in-law will be there. How do I encourage my wife to be strong and attend this event?