What was said by an in-law or a family member that upset you on Thanksgiving day?
Jay Seven asked:
I had one member tell me that
black people are different and that my niece should never marry one or even date one.
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I had one member tell me that
black people are different and that my niece should never marry one or even date one.
and we were having a good time, i left about 30 Min. later
lucky i only see them once a year
What the ?
are you for real?
December 1st, 2009 at 5:28 pm
Nothing - I steer clear of my very dysfunctional family!
They are the “fun” in dysfunctional - and not the good sort of fun either ♥Invisible Pink Unicorn♥
December 2nd, 2009 at 6:48 am
Well, it’s no-body’s choice but your niece. I hope your niece understands that and not let anybody influence her. I didn’t go over to my in-laws house for thanks giving this year. They haven’t said anything dumb yet on holidays. Just married 11/21/09
December 5th, 2009 at 1:24 pm
Sorry to hear someone spoiled you gathering. Rayzorx2002
December 7th, 2009 at 6:41 pm
My mother-in-law asked me to bring a pie, then got her husband to bake one as a back-up. She then proceeded to oversee the entire preparation, even though she’s a hypochondriac and doesn’t eat. She chastised her husband for bringing me a regular spoon for my tea instead of the silver ones. She dictated how I steamed the brocoli. She hung over my husband while he carved the turkey and would not let up on the fact he carved the “whole thing” and it would get dry. She even had the nerve to whine about a good and compassionate friend coming over to help with the sweet potatoes, but it was so “exhausting” because she had to make sure she was doing it right.
Then my husband and his step dad brought down the Christmas tree. Another fiasco as she was fussing over how it was put up, what lights were working, etc. She sure has a lot of energy for nagging for a woman who by her own admission “can barely walk 6 steps without feeling like passing out”. Casey
December 11th, 2009 at 1:55 am
When i hear something i do not agree with i just blow it off and enjoy my day because i do not let things especially trivial things to upset my day . They just want attention and that is the best way they know how to get it but if you ignore it then they eventually lose track of what they are saying and change the subject anyway. americanwoman46
December 12th, 2009 at 11:40 pm
I don’t invite my in laws for Thanksgiving because an argument always starts about something, I no longer do this at all. Sandy K
December 13th, 2009 at 11:10 am
I drink sweet tea and my lovely mother in-law believes sugar is the devil. She just brought it up over dinner and I quickly changed the subject. Marsha
December 14th, 2009 at 4:07 pm
that’s just ugly. Naia
December 14th, 2009 at 9:38 pm
You know, I always marvel at how mean people can be. They go out of their way to find something wrong when there is NOTHING WRONG.
This sort of nit picking abuse is a common form of Verbal Abuse. The constant nit picking and criticizing will wear away at the psychological well being of the victim until the perpetrator can cross a psychic boundary and start deeper violations. Although family is family and we try our best I honestly beleive that anyone who violates the psychic boundary of another is a disease and we should wash our hands of them before we too become infected.
Already you can see the infection; this posting is a symptom of the inflammation resulting from the insult. In time it will die down BUT the perpetrator has made a scratch and they will know that the wound exists. The more you expose yourself to this predator the more work they will do on you. Do the right thing. Protect yourself.
The problem is is that the heart just REALLY want to just love them. Tell the heart that there are many many many objects worthy of the love of the hear and it is better to cultivate a garden that has soil and potential than to try to grow water melons in a desert. Black
December 17th, 2009 at 1:40 pm
she asked me to just help with peeling the potatoes I was left to cooking the whole meal as she got drunk Wicked Angel
December 18th, 2009 at 2:07 am
nothing they said, it just wasn’t feeling good this year, maybe because more of the family wasn’t here, they rushed thru dinner it seemed and I felt like it would have been more fun to stay at home…usually with family and many people I do try to stay on “safe” subjects, but with some people you never know what will be thier response or lead to a bad atmosphere…
Maybe some people are just not positive or friendly and don’t understand what they are saying or their own views are not nice and they just don’t see it…. bluesky
December 18th, 2009 at 1:14 pm
my dad told me that i got hella mad and yelle at him “i’ll marry who ever I want”
umm my grandma called me a liar,a theif,who dosnt love her,all because SOMEONE ELSE left a stupid towel out
thanks grandma! Ariel
December 21st, 2009 at 11:54 pm
um, my kid’s father making rude comments about my family. that upsets me. beachgirl90
December 22nd, 2009 at 10:06 pm
Over the years, I’ve learned to put up with just about anything from family & in-laws. But to answer your question:
No, nothing was said to upset me that I can recall. I haven’t really had any holiday drama in years. My ex used to create all kinds of drama, especially when we were still married. (She was the original Drama Queen.) WillyC